Brynna Let me explain something…this quote struck a chord with me because it wasn’t until after multiple miscarriages that I realized part of why I struggled so much with envy and bitterness and frustration surrounding seeing other people have their babies was because I was afraid to let go. Letting go meant being okay with no one remembering my babies that we never got to meet.
One of THE hardest things when you experience a miscarriage (no matter how many) is that others don’t often acknowledge your baby (it’s uncomfortable, for whatever reason), and not many people remember them after the fact. Sometimes holding onto grief is a way of crying out something like “PLEASE remember my baby! PLEASE remember I was I was due at the same time as you! PLEASE remember I had big hopes and dreams!” Whatever it might be, you have NO idea how much it can mean to a mom when you acknowledge that baby she would have been expecting or holding in her arms. No matter how early she miscarried, it was her baby. No matter how many living children she already has, it was her baby.
The first time I experienced how valuable this acknowledgement is was after two of my first losses when a friend sent me a Mother’s Day card. That simple gesture was healing for me. Please don’t let your discomfort with the topic keep you from letting your sweet friend, sister, neighbor, co-worker…whoever, that you remember their baby, no matter how long it’s been, whether it’s Mother’s Day or not.
And that makes it easier to let go of the hurt and the grief and the pain. And you may help someone heal in ways you never expected.
